How to get over this extreme heartbreak?

Sorry to hear about your story. I myself am going through the ends of a 9yr love with a commitment phobic man. He panicked at 9yr anniv. and has been all erratic & turbulent since. I lost alot of serenity within myself and have hard days still. We talk and seeing him once a week when I look for him, hurts! I shouldn't be speaking to him anymore but I still want to. I am also annoyed and ignore my family because they yell at me and never even ask what is happening and am I okay. Avoiding the topic of my meltdown. If you have alot of friends, stay busy, have fun. If friends are not around, do something you enjoy,read,sing,beach,anything! Don't go looking for him! It will hurt more. Remember he was the faulty person, you know how to respect and love. Save that for a guy that is worth loving. Learn by HIS mistakes. Find daily happiness in yourself, go back to who you were before him. It's not your loss it is definitely his.